UNEXPECTED GUESTS--ANBU THOLLAI

Real friends are the ones who do not interfere too much in others life. You call a person for the first time, no reply, the second time , no reply, or they say , pls I am busy now, when free, I will call u back. Pls leave them to their own destiny , if u feel they can manage it themselves.

This approach is so genuine  that u shudn't interfere too much and trouble them to know what is going on there. Some people r so curious , they come directly to the house and wait until we come back from our work or any emergency, especially to know , y u dint answer the calls immediately.

Life is so complicated , that we do not like to discuss very silly matters with each and every person we meet. Problems we sort it out ourselves, but others want to know , y u did in this way or that way.
If at all they r genuine in their approach no one is going to escape from them.We appreciate there interest. But these people r very different and no one can change them in this earth. In Tamil there is a saying--anbu thollai. . This is the worst thing a genuine person face almost every day. At times I feel y on earth people have so much extra time, y don't they use it for their on benefits , instead of putting others in trouble. when r we going to learn all this.

love on earth

is it swinging
in my deep sleep i heard my cell ringing.
i cud hear my son singing happy birthday ma.
in the heights of happiness, in the seventh heaven

life at its full

at the peak of happiness , i believed my family will not survive without me, my hus will be heart broken , my children will not be able to think of a day without amma. every day the same thought came to me . so i just planned and imagined a life without me in this house for my entire family.

as a first step i started clearing all my papers , so that in my absence they will not be searching for this and that and waste their time .after a few days , i understood that it is not so easy to arrange everything for any one . i kept myself away from the office for two weeks for such stupid work, still things r the same without much improvement

now i know when things happen we adjust very well to the new surroundings . that is life .i should always think that my people are also the same when it comes to living their life.

my friend sundariaunty

in 1995 we came from doha after leaving our good jobs to settle down in chennai. in a short time we made a good friendship with our neighbour sundary aunty and her family thru her daughter shanti peter. in a fewdays time we became good friends and she used to help me in each item i needed help. though she was not healthy enough to come with me always she used to send her daughters or her young son to help me in any time i needed .all these 13 years years i enjoyed her help.
during these years her two daughters got married
recently i saw her in her sons wedding and felt "thank god they all r happy and now they will enjoy a good time together. "
yesterday i got a message from my neighbour that sundary aunty expired. we all rushed to the place immediately to know that she had a chest pain for a few seconds and within seconds she is gone.
i cudn't control my tears there though i know it is of no use crying .i wanted to hug her and kiss her to say her sorry that i cudn't come and see her before she went .but the glass ventilator of the mobile mortury stopped me from hugging her, i cud only wipe the fog on the glass and see her beautiful face telling me as always not to worry. kadavul irrukkaru. avaru pathiduvaru, (god is there . dont worry everything will be alright as always by gods help)
as time goes, like her we all become only a memory in our dear ones hearts.
this is what we all do. we realise the value of anything when we really lose them for ever and ever

socialism in india

04-03-08
i heard a shouting from a man in our office during lunch break. all the staff members were having their lunch . he was questioning them in a loud voice , HOW CUD U PARK UR CAR IN MY PLACE. ?
coming out of my cabin i requested the fellow to talk a little more polite which resulted in more aggressive behaviuor from his side. after a 10 minutes arguement in vain he went down and even i followed him to shift my car (from the supposed to be his place as he claimed) . where i parked my car was the market place which obviously is owned by the govenment.

after parking my car iN ANOTHER SAFER PLACE i came back in utter helplessness and mental agony that i cudnt do anything to make him understand what he did was totally wrong.

to my dismay a second thought came to my mind , when we people travel in an ac car ,these poor people wait for soemone's mercy to take their sick child to a govt.hospital ? dont we make them feel helpless and thus force them to be more arrogant on all his activities and mannerisms. how cud they be polite in a world that is so partial and selfish towards them
is n't it right on HIS side to get angry on us unnecessarily.
definitely we dig the grave for HIM and HIS FAMILY. .
do we really practise socialism?

lonely journey

to be left alone in this world is the worst thing a human being can go thru. everyone wishes to have a true friend in life. r we a true friend to any one. when we r not , how can we expect a true friend in our lives. nature always welcome a give and take policy. when we give , we get back in the same coin. so none to be blamed for our lonliness.

love -- unconditional

we feel at times (or always ) that we r better human beings than others.but time proves u r wrong at times. still it is not possible for us to realise our mistakes as our opinion on ourselves is formed by years together and from the good words our close ones give us from child hood.
the truth shud be accepted and corrected when we realise the matter ourselves. if not our growth stops then and there.
we shud ask ourselves if we love others only for our sake or not. 99 % we love others for our happiness and profit. this is conditional love . when there occures unconditional love GOD appears there . but is it possible for us to have unconditional love to any one .we have to think over it .