Tuesday, March 9, 2021

 our gift from GOD 

we received a letter on 19th of July 2008 Saturday. at around 5 46 am. 


IT READ LIKE THIS 


HAPPY BIRTHDAY, PA,.THANK YOU FOR BEING MY COMPASS WHENEVER MY SHIP WAS LOST. 

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       FOR PA 

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NO THANK YOU, BUT I DONT SMOKE, 

I WANTED TO BE LIKE YOU. 

IN SPEECH OR SIGHT. 


NO THANK YOU BUT I DONT DRINK. 

I WANTED TO BE LIKE YOU 

Every day, BE IT, 

DAY OR NIGHT.


NO  THANK YOU I WISH TO BE THE SAME, 

I WISHED TO BE LIKE MY FATHER,

EVERY MOMENT, SO BE IT 

 I SAID .....


YOU HAVE SET ME FREE LONG AGO, 

 BUT IT WAS ME WHO WISHED TO STAY, 

NEVER REALIZED THIS UNTIL NOW, 

LOVE YOU IN EVERY WAY ... HAPPY BIRTHDAY PA 

 GMN  19TH JULY 2008


THIS IS THE BEST GIFT WE RECEIVED FROM GOD THROUGH OUR SON. THANK YOU MONE AND THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING. 


to be good parents

a parent is born as they conceive a baby in them, we should prepare ourselves to be a good parent. one of my neice conceived her first child after waiting for a baby for nearly 5 years. the five years of waiting maid her the best parent we can ever see. once she conceived , she started reading a lot of writing of the baby growth inside her and as nearing her delivery she was fully prepared for her delivery and inspite of the lakhs and lakhs of ceaserian operations today , she had a very normal delivery with her husban dand mother inside her labour room.

this made me think of one serious matter that every body should get a baby only when they seriously think of having one . then we try to give our full support to the baby and we never consider the baby as a hinderance in their life of worldy pleasures.

one more thing is now a days we can see it has become a mannerism in any well to do house to serve drinks for male guests infront of their small kids. all talk about their kids , that they should be number one in everything , even in character. but for that we should be an example infront of our kids. We should never tell our kids not to drink or smoke inspite we should be a model to our kids. then we can say proudly our children wont go wrong . 

Sunday, February 11, 2018

which way to find the kinder garten school

some one was banking the horn at my back, as I was  reaching my home from my morning walk today, I dint turn as it is quite common in gulf countries to hear car honking if ladies are alone on the road. again the sound, I dint turn . hey hello please, some one called in a feminine voice , made me turn back  and found it was a young mother with her small boy , asked me which way to kinder garten school nearby. It came to my memory while walking I passed a small school , I just told her first turn right and then next left and straight , the school comes, she drove off.

At home , and thought of the young girl and wondered if she had found the school. The thought took me to a lonely road which we were travelling years back, to meet our friend in malyolapuzha , pathanamthitta kerala. we were driving through a small road two sides full of paddy fields . suddenly our driver told that we check with some one working in the field the route to malayolapuzha temple. our friend stays  near by the temple. The person in the field instructed us the route . we trusted him and went nearly four kilometres ,but no temple seen, . Once again the driver asked some one on the road the route and to our surprise he told that wehave already traveled 4 to 5 kilometers ahead, then he explained clearly the route. we traveled back and passed the paddy field and we could see the men gave us the route was clapping and laughing seeing our car coming back on the same route , as if he has done something great by fooling us .

I do not know what happiness they derive from cheating and spoiling our whole trip with such  behaviour . If they do not want to help us, at least they should not cheat us. 

Missing the most loved one for ever

Missing the most loved one for ever --no one can express the feeling . When I lost my mom 25 years back , I felt I lost everything in my life  ,  any other crisis is not bigger than loosing my dearest mother. So many years I was having the feeling that I wont be able to - even cry if I loose any other person in my life.

But later years proved that loosing my father and my two more brothers is too much for me to bear with . Even after that, a few days gone,  I laughed , cried , ate and did all my routine chores as nothing has happened.

We always believe that our small ones will never leave us and go to another world before us. So we dream of having them a full fledged beautiful life in front of us. we dream of them joining us for all our day today functions and having fun with us.

A time comes , all our beliefs , calculations , and dreams get a strong blow as we come to know the person whom we dream of taking care of us is no more, that too in an hours time, he is gone , our younger brother Jayaprakash whom we all call mone and others JP. He was the youngest of all of us . he took care of our elder brother who was bedridden for nearly seven years.

We, all the rest 6 members of our family could not bear the truth. People were coming, praising his worth , narrating stories how he saved their families , how he saved their lives. all in vain , whats the use if we remembering him or crying for him now , after he has gone . when he was there , we dint know this would happen to him.

April 10th 2016 we lost our balan annas only son balananth in puttingal fire works explotion . so by this year April  his mother was asking about his anniversary , and what we have to do on that day for balanath, the reply from JP was "dont worry on that now , before that you all can have my adiyanthiram(a function we do after a persons death)" we all took that as a joke from him. He knew this was going to happen.

We all are so sorry mone for not listening to your words to live a simple life and have high thinking like you . you never ran after money and power , but both came to you from your sincere work by itself .

a letter from our son

today me and my husband received a letter from our son.this is the best gift any parent deserve . thank you mone , he was praising us for being with them always.

this made me think, each parent thinks the best for our children , nothing less nothing more, but our children take it in different ways. we can never say one parent is gud an dthe other is bad. parent is always for their children . if all kids understand it, then no need of any outside power we need to make them good citizens. thank you GOD for all your support.